Many of us are working hard, trying to stick to a list of New Year’s resolutions. We’re 4 days into the New Year, how are you doing? Only 8% of Americans will stick with their resolution through the entire year. Those odds are downright awful! How will you be sure you are a part of the 8% that gets to say in 12 months, I did it, I finally did it!
So what makes the difference? What is it 8% of Americans out there do differently than the rest of us? Is it will power, accountability, a vision board, support? All of those can definitely help, but it takes more than just a desire. Resolutions can often times be just a wish list. A resolution is a resolve.
What does it take to create a lasting change in your life?
2. Don’t focus on what you’re losing- Think of what you will be gaining in your life instead of what you’re losing: instead of focusing on cutting out sugar, alcohol, cigarettes, or losing 10 lbs, focus on the joy of a life without those things. Recognize how much fuller and more enjoyable your life will be without those things. You need a vision that excites you beyond belief. If you dread the new you at any point in this, game over. You have to love it and live it every single day.
3. Focus with overwhelming intensity- Emotional intensity and power of focus will get you to your goal. When challenges arise; you want that brownie, you don’t want to go to the gym, you need a drink- how are you going to stay strong at those times? Fear won’t take over if you have strong enough reasons.
4. Review it and feel it every day- Vocalize it, put it out in the open, allow everyone to embrace and get to know the new you. Attract it with your every thought. Attract the amazing life you are gaining, again don’t waste one second worrying about what you are losing.
6. Raise your standards- Lasting change is different than just reaching your temporary goal. You need to create a new woman who is fully aware of her confidence, her love for health, a woman who no longer feels the need to sulk back into a sabotaging comfort zone. Do you think there’s any way in hell you can reach your goal if you waste your time and energy grabbing rolls of fat, hating your wide hips, or obsessing over your cellulite. Again, don’t focus on what you’ll be losing, channel your focus to everything you’ll be gaining.
7. Create a new identity- Think of that one day something happened, and it changed your life from that moment forward. What was once a should became a must, after a specific shift took place in your mind. It took 0 will power once you made the click. It becomes part of your identity. Weight loss has nothing to do with will power. It is all based on your identity of yourself. If you hold on to the inner fat girl, you will never be happy with your body, no matter what size you are.
8. I am who I think I am- We act consistently with who we believe we are. If you define yourself as someone who is healthy, high energy, loves exercising, and loves delicious healthy food, it will be easy to shed the pounds. Definitions like frumpy and lazy that we joke about are outrageously terrible for your health. So you were thin in High School despite the fact that you never exercised and you ate like crap. No excuses about a different metabolism, whatever size you believed you were back then, is what you easily maintained. Somewhere between then and now many of our definitions of ourselves have shifted. It’s understandable we have new roles: student, mother, wife, care giver, etc. When did you define yourself as someone you could or couldn’t be. We made decisions so long ago that define what we believe we are capable of. When we decide we can’t fight past this, we’re stuck in our limitations. When did you decide to stick to that limitation? Joy comes when you’re spontaneous. It’s hard to be truly happy when you’re not being yourself, and when you feel uncomfortable. Spontaneity forces you out of your comfort zone, you can either progress or digress. Set higher standards for yourself and watch your life and your body change. We live to be who we believe we are.
9. Live the new you every single second- Your body, right now is a 100% reflection of the identity you have of yourself, it is a product of every appreciation and abuse. If you view yourself as an athlete, you have a certain physique, amount of energy, way of moving. If you say you’ve always been overweight, that’s where you see yourself and that is who you are. We see a healthy athletic woman and think, I’ll do what she’s doing because I want to look like her. Are you going to fail, absolutely. Don’t spend another second comparing yourself to your thin friends, you have to begin to create a new you.
Can I please reiterate one last time, wants don’t get met consistently, musts will always find a way. If you really want to make a change in your life, you have to create a new identity, a new must with 0 tolerance for fear and failure is the only way you will truly reach your goals.
I look forward to hearing how it feels to wake up to the new you, every single day for the rest of your life!